We are so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others
that in the end we become disguised to ourselves.”
~ Francois Duc de La Rochefoucauld.
Have you seen the show, “What Not To Wear“? The premise revolves around fashion experts helping fashion victims select the proper clothing to compliment their body shape and lifestyle.
Think of it as a clothing intervention of sorts:
Hidden cameras, blunt advice (from the hosts), mirrors, trash cans, some crying (from the contestants), a pocket full of cash, and several days in New York City conspire to transform formerly slovenly — albeit comfortable — individuals into sophisticated and stylish fashion plates.
The entire show can be summed up with this:
Want to look better? Stop doing this. Start doing this.
I find that many of the principles from the show should be applied to real life.
Too often, we buy into worthless (or dangerous) judgments, and stuff our closets full of other people’s ideas that don’t fit, look ridiculous, and waste our time.
We make plans and take actions based on what we think others may be thinking about us or how they might interpret about our intentions.
While our “friends,” family members, and colleagues hang their expectations, whims, and ideas in our lives, we second-guess our decisions, question our own motives, and plan elaborate communication strategies to avoid confrontation.
We accessorize with activities and phrases and ideas hoping others will accept us.
And at the end of the day, we lie exhausted on a pile of mismatched, ill-fitting, meaningless garments — a collection of other people’s “stuff” — that we never should have bought in the first place. (And at the very least, should never have worn in public!)
It’s time for an intervention! Take a look in the mirror. Stop letting other people trash your life.
Wheel in the garbage cans. Throw out your insecurities. Discard the notion that your value is determined by others. Rip up the conception that you have to live your life based on what you think someone else may be thinking about you. You look ridiculous. And, honey, you can’t be comfortable in those outfits!
It’s time for change. Follow your heart. Stand by your convictions. Confidently make decisions that are right for you — become comfortable in your own skin.
As Euripides said, “There is just one life for each of us: our own.”
Whatever you are, stop apologizing for who you are and start living YOUR life.
Deanna
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