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Sometimes when you think you are done, it is just the edge of beginning.

Probably that’s why we decide we’re done. It’s getting too scary. We are touching down onto something real.

It is beyond the point when you think you are done that often something strong comes out.

~Natalie Goldberg

I once read a quote that stated “It’s the beginnings and ends of things that can be messy.”

So true!

Life doesn’t arrive in neat chapters with a well-defined beginning and conclusion.  We don’t always see the cues that signify we’re moving out of one thing and into something else.

In life, it’s often difficult to see the starting gate or hear the starter’s pistol.  And it’s just as unlikely to know exactly when you’ve crossed the finish line.  Many times, it is only when looking back through the wisdom of time that one can discern the beginning and ending of various stages of life.

One thing of which we can be certain is this:  Each day is a new beginning. You need to treat it like the incredible opportunity that it is!  Yesterday is complete, finished, done — use it as a springboard to the future today holds, not as an anchor to keep you tied to the past.

Remember today,
for it is the beginning of always.

Today marks the start of a brave new future
filled with all your dreams can hold.

Think truly to the future and make those dreams come true.
~ Unknown

Don’t think of it as crossing the finish line, think of it as starting a brand new race.

Whatever you are, you’re at the edge of the beginning!

Deanna

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The Beginning is often the end.

And to make an end is to make a beginning.

The end is where we start from.

~ T. S. Eliot

We are in the season of endings.

Winter has ended. School years are ending. And with June being the month of weddings, many single lives are ending.  And those are just the big things.

You’re probably dealing with other endings in your own life. Perhaps a job is ending or a relationship (as you know it) is ending.  A project may be coming to a conclusion. Hopefully, the rainy days of spring are ending soon.

It is a conflicted time of sadness for what we’re losing and joy as we anticipate what the future holds for us — or at least it should be.

To the pessimist it is The End. To the optimist it is The Beginning.  Same event — two different view points.

As Jim Rohn asks, why is it that the same measure affects people so differently?

It all depends on how you look at it. Our lives are mostly affected by the way we think things are. Not the way things are. The way we think they are affects us most.

Your life is like a closet filled to the brim.  If you want to add one more item, something else has got to go!  Stop thinking of the End as a loss, and instead look at is as a necessary exercise to make room for the amazing things waiting for you in your future. I guarantee your outlook will change.

“There are things that we never want to let go of,
people we never want to leave behind.
But keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world,
it’s the beginning of a new life.”
~ Unknown

Whatever “End” sits on your calendar, don’t stare at it too long or you’ll miss the possibilities that are waiting your arrival. Take what you’ve learned — all the experiences and lessons —  and use them to create a fabulous new beginning for yourself.

Whatever you are, it’s time to get started — your beginning is waiting!

Deanna

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The future you see is the future you get” [Robert G. Allen].

It’s Friday — TGIF and all of that!

I don’t know about you, but what a week it has been. In a good way. No, it would probably be more accurate to say, in a great way.

As I sit at my desk and review the past several days, I don’t have any huge wins or amazing accomplishments to write in my journal. There was nothing I would label as an earth-shattering breakthrough.

I think what made the difference for me this week is that I kept my sights set on the big picture, the goal down the road, the prize at the end. And by doing so, I kept my priorities right.

When you maintain the right perspective,  it is easier to organize and prioritize the daily minutia, the “stuff,” the details that often threaten to drown each one of us.

Think of it like driving a car down the road without knowing exactly where you’re going.  As you focus on the car directly in front of you, slow down to read the signs and speed up to get to the next intersection, your driving becomes reactionary, adjustments are frequent and often severe.

It’s quite tedious and tiring. And can be dangerous.

A lot of activity, but no real sense of accomplishment.

However, if you know where you ultimately want to arrive, you can keep your focus on that point further down the road.  You become proactive, small adjustments now ensure you stay the course.  You avoid unnecessary detours, bypass the pitfalls, and the journey is much more pleasant.

Maybe that’s why many of the famous sports quotes remind us to, “Keep your eye on the prize,” not “watch your opponent.” Because as you keep your focus on the goal, you’ll take the actions required to win the match.

As Samuel Smiles said,

Progress of the best kind is comparatively slow.

Great results cannot be achieved at once;
we must be satisfied to advance in life
as we walk step by step.”

And so it was with this week.

Thanks, everyone, who shared the journey with me.  I hope you can look back with a sense of pride and fulfillment for what you accomplished over the past several days.

Now, go out there and enjoy the weekend!

Whatever you are, make sure you’re looking at the future you want!

Deanna

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If there is one door in the castle you have been told not to go through, you must.

Otherwise, you’ll just be rearranging furniture in the rooms you’ve already been in” [Anne Lamott].

If you follow my writing, you know how strongly I advocate that you push the envelope, open the door, and put  it on the line when it comes to going after your dreams and reaching your destiny.

I’ve said it one way or another over the months, and I still believe that until you ask the question, the answer is no.  Gather up your courage and ask for what you want. What could it hurt?

Recently, however, I was reminded of the small-minded people, weak leaders, and unhappy individuals who are offended that you would even consider posing the question.

Sometimes these dream haters, motivated by their own insecurity, even attempt to keep you from asking.  So concerned with making waves (convinced any disturbance may result in a tsunami that would destroy their little kingdom), they are reluctant to hear your question.

Their own fear and jealousy causes them to bite and snipe at your courage, mock your vision, and stomp on your efforts.

Don’t you dare let small minds silence your voice or hinder your efforts!

You must not sit quietly while they decide your future.
You must not wait for them to tell you which doors you may or may not open.
You must continue to act and to ask the questions.
To press for the answers you want.
To keep playing until you win.

“Life is constantly testing us for our level of commitment, and life’s greatest rewards are reserved for those who demonstrate a never-ending commitment to act until they achieve.

“This level of resolve can move mountains, but it must be constant and consistent. As simplistic as this may sound, it is still the common denominator separating those who live their dreams from those who live in regret” [Anthony Robbins].

Raise your hand. Ask the question. Open the door. Take persistent action. You must not let their fear define your future.

Whatever you are, be a good one!

Deanna

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You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest, that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present” [Jan Glidwell].

Tomorrow is garbage day.  The big yellow trucks will begin their rounds in our neighborhood while the skies are still dark. Picking up trash cans from front curbs and driveways, returning empty containers, ready to be filled again during the coming week.

Whether returning from the recycling center with empty containers, or rolling our trash can in from the curb, there is something awesome about getting rid of things that have outlived their usefulness.

Did you hear that after 36 years of publication, J.C. Penney is discontinuing its “big book” catalog? The days of pouring over a telephone sized book for hours are coming to an end. Just another example of “out with the old” [Stylelist].

How do we accumulate all this trash?

I know for certain that none of my friends or neighbors have ever stopped by with a bag of garbage for me. Nor has anyone in my family ever dropped off a gift box filled with trash. No, I wouldn’t put up with anyone purposely polluting my space.  Would you?

Trash sneaks into our homes with beneficial items like groceries and arrives in our mailboxes encasing that must-have item for Fall.  It’s used to transport our  new shoes and hides behind the toys we just purchased.

For some of us, trash is difficult to recognize.  Don’t believe me?  The A&E Network has a series called Hoarders that puts a spotlight on a disorder in which individuals compulsively obtain and keep belongings. Yikes!

My point is this: too often we allow trash to come into our lives and hang around.  It marches in with a colleague’s bad mood, sneaks around with a relative’s persistent “complaining,” or arrives with a well-meaning friend’s gossip session.

Sometimes, we’re our own worst enemy.  We’re so busy polluting our lives remembering past mistakes, indiscretions, and poor judgments, we can’t see any possibility of a bright future. We keep hoarding the junk, allowing it to overwhelm the promise of something better.

Here’s my advice: take a cue from J.C. Penney. It’s time to stop what isn’t working. Toss out what’s junking up your life and distracting you from your future.

Discard the clothes you haven’t worn in forever. Recycle the newspapers. Throw out your old past. Put down that stuff you’ve been carrying around.

It’s heavy and old and discouraging. It takes up valuable space, depletes your energy,  and hides your future.

Besides, it smells funny and makes you act weird.

Empty your arms of the past so you can embrace the future.  If you want to live a life of purpose,  “look at life through the windshield, not the rear-view mirror” [Byrd Baggett].

Whatever you are, be a good one!

Deanna

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The future has a way of arriving unannounced” [George Will].

It’s difficult to believe. Even harder to imagine. But it’s true.

You future is here!

You know that far-off-in-the-distant, one day I’ll get there, that’s why I’m working so hard today future?  Yes, that ONE!  Well, it’s here.

And it might not even seem like it. Could be impossible to recognize, what with all the exceedingly normal activity you have planned for today. But be assured, today is your future.

What do you mean it doesn’t look like what you had imagined? Were you anticipating marching bands, balloons, a parade in your honor?

What? You weren’t ready for the future’s arrival? What were you expecting today to be? Just more of yesterday?

Simone Weil said, “the future is made of the same stuff as the present.”

That may be why it doesn’t look particularly different. And it may also explain why we don’t recognize it. And why we fail to plan for it.

I wonder what would happen if we managed to stop thinking of the future as some fuzzy time far off in the distance happening that will burst on the scene when we least expect it, and begin thinking of the future as tomorrow.

You can sit by and mindlessly go through the motions, waiting for your “some day” to arrive.

You can hold your future hostage through the actions of your past.

You can paralyze the future through unforgiveness, bitterness, and shame.

You can ignore the future — play the part of the grasshopper instead of the ant.

In the end, it doesn’t matter how you treat the future, it’s coming again tomorrow.  The future is not a surprise party given in your honor. It is a creation of your efforts. Each of us is responsible for our own future.

So, the question you must ask yourself is this one:

How are you going to live today,
to create the tomorrow you’re committed to?
~Tony Robbins

See how easy that is?  Change today, impact tomorrow, and create the future you’ve imagined.

Whatever you are, be a good one!

Deanna

PS: “Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal” [Wayne Dyer].

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It isn’t your problems that are bothering you. It is the way you are looking at them” [Epictetus].

It’s hanging around out there. It may be far off in the distance or it might be closer than you can believe.  The problem, decision, confrontation. That “thing” which will change your life as you know it, into something unknown and unproven.

You see today with its comfortable routine. You see the line in the sand. What you cannot see is the other side. It’s the unknown lurking in your future that causes concern, produces panic, starts the worrying.

The questions haunt us as we sleep, greet us each morning, and hang around throughout the day.

What is it like over there? What if? What will I do? Why me? Am I strong enough? Where will I find the answers? What will they think? What if I fail?

What if you were to take control
by creating your own set of questions?

What if this is the best thing for me? Could this be my opportunity to soar? Will I find my passion? Who will I have the opportunity to meet? How can I help? What new adventures will I find? Why not me? What if this is my time to succeed?

Same future issue. New outlook.

I just have to share a quote I read by skateboard mogul, Tony Hawk, in the October 2009 issue of Entrepreneur magazine.  (At age 41, Hawk is the highest-paid action sports athlete, according to Forbes, with estimated earnings of $12 million last year.)

“My definition of success is doing what you love. I feel many people do things because they feel they have to, and are hesitant to risk following their passion.

“And obviously, yeah, it’s hard right now.

“But maybe there’s a chance that if you get laid off, maybe that’s your saving grace, your chance to restart.”

On the other side of fear you will find your worst imaginable scenario or a chance to restart. The opportunity to live the nightmare or live the dream. The choice is yours.

On the other side of fear your destiny is waiting. It’s time to start asking different questions.

Whatever you are, be a good one!

Deanna

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