There are only two options regarding commitment.
You’re either in or out.
There’s no such thing as a life in-between” [Pat Riley].
It seems like there is one in every crowd, group, team, or committee: the person who just isn’t committed.
- He’ll try. (However, if the project turns out to be challenging or boring, or something else shiny catches his attention, he won’t finish.)
- He’ll show up when it’s convenient. (Translation: no one has made a better offer.)
- He will enthusiastically accept assignments. (But too often fails to follow-through.)
- He supports the plan. (Unfortunately, due to circumstances way beyond his control, he is just never able to deliver.)
The excuses are as numerous as the stars in the sky: “I’m too busy. I forgot. I didn’t understand. The dog ate my paper. I don’t feel well. My metabolism is slow. The kids needed a nap. It wasn’t my turn. It was on sale. I didn’t have time.”
This is the true joy of life — being used for a purpose that is recognized by yourself as a mighty one . . . instead of being a feverish, selfish, little clod of ailments and grievances, complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy” [George Bernard Shaw].
The honest answer of the uncommitted is simply, “I didn’t want to.” I didn’t want to save the money, skip the dessert, call my mother, attend the function, support the cause, confront the problem, or face the facts.
Or, perhaps, more accurately, “I didn’t want to honor my commitment more than I wanted to do something else.”
But instead of being honest with themselves and others, they prefer to live behind the gauzy wall of excuses, doing whatever feels good, or convenient, or easy.
“If you don’t make a total commitment to whatever you’re doing, then you start looking to bail out the first time the boat starts leaking. It’s tough enough getting that boat to shore with everybody rowing, let alone when a guy stands up and starts putting his life jacket on” [Lou Holtz].
In the Star Wars sequel, The Empire Strikes Back, Yoda, the Jedi teacher, tries to implant into Luke Skywalker the means of engaging the “force” that is the greatest power in the universe. He says to his pupil, “Luke, there is no try, there is either do or not do” [Van Ekeren].
There’s a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstances permit. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results” [Unknown].
So, I have to ask, “Are you committed?” There’s no half-way with this. You’re either in — or you’re out.
The only way to achieve results is to be in. All the way in. Wholeheartedly committed.
“Nothing of worthy or weight can be achieved with half a mind,with a faint heart, and with a lame endeavor” [Isaac Barrow].
Whatever you are, be a good one!
Deanna
I’m taking a brief respite from writing this week, which gives me the opportunity to revisit some of my favorite posts. This edited essay was originally published 6/24/09.