The name we give something
shapes our attitude to it.
~ Katherine Patterson
My cousin (in-law) Shelly recently posted the following message on Facebook:
Group with no name is CANCELLED FOR TONIGHT.
We will reschedule for another day. Pass it on.
I was amused and intrigued. I mean, who has a group and then not only doesn’t name it, but advertises this group is nameless? I was hooked.
I didn’t know anything about anything that was going on, but I was curious to know when the group would be rescheduled. (And, truth be told, the more pressing priority was that I wanted to know what was up with this group!)
Well, apparently I wasn’t the only one watching the Group with No Name updates.
The following day, Shelly posted this message:
:::: GROUP WITH NO NAME ::::
Tuesday, July 13th @
7:30!!!!
Hillbilly Slip & Slide, Barrel Bull and of course,
Julia from Germany ♥
That was it. No address. No idea who was invited. No explanation of who this Julia from Germany was and why she would be in attendance. Hopefully, the members knew the details, because those of us on the outside looking in didn’t have a clue.
And then, finally, someone asked the question I had been waiting on:
“Shell, what’s the group with no name?
Whatever they do sounds fun!”
Shelly graciously responded that the group consists of teens and young adults who used to be members of a particular youth group.
But that’s not the point — not even close.
In a later post, Shelly expounded on the name. “We are a lot of characters so we are not an easily defined group.”
And there you have it.
Groups with names exclude, they set apart, they symbolize something (correctly or incorrectly). They say my members are this . . . or my members are not that. Because you are like us you are welcome to join our ranks . . . or because you are different, don’t even think about it.
You’re either in or you’re out. And it’s generally determined pretty early in the process which side of the acceptance line you land.
But a group without a label is welcoming, friendly, hospitable. You can’t automatically exclude yourself based on the group name. You don’t have to be any one particular thing to be accepted. You’re not denied because you don’t meet the criteria. You are welcome.
There will always be room for you on that barrel bull.
So, hat’s off to Shelly and the Group with No Name! Corporate America could learn a thing or two from you:
- Sometimes no name is the best name of all.
- Make an effort not to exclude people.
- Celebrate diversity.
- Stop taking yourself so seriously — take a turn on the Hillbilly Slip & Slide every once in a while.
And, oh yeah, Julia (whoever you are) — I hope you’re having a great time in the States!
Whatever you are, have a blast!
Deanna