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Be fabulous and don’t let any one thing ruin your life.”
~ Kylee Halko,

Awesome advice, don’t you think?  Especially when you consider it was offered by a seven-year-old who suffers with Progeria.


Kylee with her parents and Barbara Walters.

For those who might not know, Progeria is a rare, fatal genetic condition characterized by an appearance of accelerated aging in children. Signs include growth failure, loss of body fat and hair, aged-looking skin, stiffness of joints, hip dislocation, generalized atherosclerosis, cardiovascular (heart) disease and stroke. Children with Progeria die of atherosclerosis (heart disease) at an average age of thirteen years.

Kylee’s life is certainly not what most of us would consider the optimal circumstances to be fabulous.  Most of us encounter far fewer obstacles and look forward to a much brighter future. Yet too often we are unable to muster the energy to be fabulous. Why is that?

How many times do we unnecessarily allow one failure, one disappointment, or one unexpected detour ruin our entire life?

Well, maybe not our entire life, but certainly affect things for far too long of a stretch. We moan and complain and exclaim to anyone who will listen how “Life’s Not Fair!”  Okay, I’ll give you that — life isn’t fair. So what?

Why do we let the negativity and stress and ugliness take control? Why do we feel compelled to become just another victim of random circumstances?

If you don’t like what you’ve been handed, why not recycle it into something else? You can if you want to — changing your present starts with changing your attitude.

How about just being fabulous regardless of the madness swirling around you?  Determine to rise above and be your very best self — in spite of what is being thrown your way, or what the future looks like, or what the doctors say. Why not embrace an attitude that is exceptionally good, marvelous, and superb? Laugh at your unfair life.

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past . . . we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way.

We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it.

And so it is with you . . . we are in charge of our attitudes.”
[Charles Swindoll].

Whatever life hands you, be fabulous in spite of it!


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Never try to teach a pig to sing; it wastes your time and it annoys the pig” [Robert Heinlein].

I don’t recall when I initially discovered this quote; but I have to tell you, it’s one of my all-time favorites. It’s smart. It’s funny. It’s true.

First, I want you to imagine walking through the pig barn at your local fair. The smell. The sound of all the pigs grunting. The straw and scraps of food littering the stalls. The noise. The smell. The chaos.

Now, imagine kneeling down at one pen, attempting to get a pig’s attention and trying to coax him over to you. Then, when you finally have made eye contact and convinced that pig that it is in his best interest to walk to your side of the pen, think about what it would be like to begin singing “The Wheels on the Bus” and encouraging the pig to sing along.

What would you would say to encourage the pig? “Come on, pig! Join me, won’t you? I just know you can do it! Isn’t this fun?”

Regardless of how many meetings you schedule, the team-building experiences you select, the books you read, the personal experiences you share, the coaching sessions you employ, the incentives you offer, or the “expert 5-point plan” that worked over at Old MacDonald’s, that pig is simply not going to sing.

Even if you were meeting that pig’s immediate desire with food or a scratch on the head, the pig will not only refuse to sing, he will quickly return to the satisfaction of his feed trough, or the comfort of the straw piled in the corner and succumb to a nap. He behaves like a pig — that’s what he knows.

“Half of the unhappiness in the world is due to the failure of plans which were never reasonable, and often impossible” [Edgar Watson Howe].

Teaching a pig to sing is a waste of your time. No matter how desperately you want him to sing and how much time you’re willing to invest, he’s just not going to do it!

Let’s face facts. Some people, regardless of your very best intentions, will never want to play nice. They take pride in being self-indulgent, disrespectful, obstinate, condescending, manipulating, and narrow minded. For whatever reason, they enjoy any opportunity which allows their toxic life to spill all over anyone unfortunate enough to stand in their way.

Although our ultimate goal may be to build a harmonious and fulfilling relationship, that which is defective in the lives of discontented people is not something you can easily “fix” any more successfully than you can teach a pig to sing simply because you expect he should.

“Life is under no obligation to give us what we expect” [Margaret Mitchell].

Even Albert Einstein realized that continuing to spend your energy teaching pigs to sing, constituted lunacy. He said it this way: “insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

Let me give it to you straight: That pig is not going to sing. Quit wasting your time.

Whatever you are, be a good one!


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