Posts Tagged ‘Epicurus’

Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not;
remember that what you now have
was once among the things you only hoped for.
~ Epicurus

We have a lot of things to remember.

Shopping lists and schedules.

Appointments and deadlines.

Birthdays and travel plans.


When was the last time you spent any time remembering your hero?

Not the idols who thrill us with their fantastic voices.

Not the dancers who amaze us with spectacular choreography.

Not the athletes who bring home the championship trophy.

Not the authors who write compelling prose.

Not the hosts who ask the intriguing questions.

True heroes.

Those who gave their lives in the line of duty in our nation’s service, so that we might enjoy the things we once only hoped for.

They gave up everything for honor.

For love of country.

For freedom.

For me.

For you.

With Memorial Day right around the corner . . . as you make your lists and schedule your plans . . . relishing a day outside of your normal routine, don’t forget to remember the ones who have made our freedom — our way of life — possible.

Our true heroes.  The men and women who gave everything so that we have the opportunity to live the life we have imagined.

Let us never take their sacrifice for granted.

Let us never forget to remember.

Whatever you are, be grateful — our freedom wasn’t free.


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Life is often ambiguous and untidy. There are always loose ends.

It is sticky, hot, cold, lukewarm sometimes — and frequently messy and unmanageable.

Most of life is somewhere in between, in the middle — amidst small frustrations and a lot of “I don’t know what to do next” [Tim Hansel].

Life can be so, well, daily. There are ups and downs and all arounds. We meet with life coaches and financial planners and attorneys and all sorts of counselors, just trying to get it right.

We read the books, subscribe to the magazines, listen to the speeches, consult the experts and work diligently on developing and maintaining a positive outlook. We do the work, go above-and-beyond, volunteer, help the neighbor, pay the taxes, walk the dog, get the degree and cut the coupons.

But sometimes, in spite of all of our best efforts, we come upon a section of life’s freeway that isn’t just right. Progress is impeded by pot holes of illness or unemployment, wash-outs of disillusionment, or barricades of broken trust and forsaken confidences. The life you had imagined (if you can still see it) sits far off in the distance.

It is during those difficult times, when the unpleasantness of our life shows like some wayward undergarment slipping beneath the hem, when we often discover our true friends. Those who are not inconvenienced or embarrassed or uncomfortable by our circumstances. Instead, they willingly step in, step up, and help us regain our footing.

“It is not so much our friends’ help that helps us, as the confidence of their help” [Epicurus].

When we cannot see the way clearly, our friends light a candle or turn on a flashlight or emblazon the path with a spotlight. They stand ready to do whatever is necessary, whenever it is required. As Edgar Watson Howe said, “When a friend is in trouble, don’t annoy him by asking if there is anything you can do. Think up something appropriate and do it.”

“My friends have made the story of my life. In a thousand ways they have turned my limitations into beautiful privileges, and enabled me to walk serene and happy in the shadow cast by my deprivation” [Helen Keller].

Thanks to my very dear friends who have walked alongside me during the difficult times and “not only saw a light at the end of the tunnel, but became that light for me” [Compendium]. Thank you for not becoming uncomfortable when my life was showing. I appreciate your kind encouragement, wise counsel, and boundless support.

“We cannot tell the precise moment when friendship is formed. As in filling a vessel drop by drop, there is at last a drop which makes it run over. So in a series of kindesses, there is at last, one which makes the heart run over” [James Boswell].

Look for opportunities to be that last drop of kindness for someone today.

Whatever you are, be a good one!


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